We received a call early FRIDAY morning on the 19th of December. Judy (sister-in-law) had called an ambulance to take Fred (my husband's younger brother) to the hospital Thursday evening. His Oxygen level was down drastically and he was very weak. Fred received a diagnoses, I believe this past April, of renal cancer that had metastasized. He fought a hard fight and had 8-months to be with family. Everything was organized and in place for his family. He took great care of his family. He passed from this life on Friday evening around 6:30pm EST.
Just an example of Fred's "thinking ahead". While there I noticed a beautiful vase of roses and a card leaning against the vase. He had ordered these flowers the day before going into the hospital for Judy's birthday on the 26th. That's Fred, always thinking ahead, always thoughtful. Here is what Fred wrote on the card:
He desired an informal funeral/memorial service and that's what we did. His older brother, my husband, spoke and then Robin his daughter gave her memories and thoughts (more than a eulogy) but spoke from her heart of what her DAD meant to her.
Teresa and Bob (his sister and brother) spoke of fond "family" memories. Marc talked about his Uncle Fred. And there were others who spoke fondly of Fred.
We cried, we laughed, and we cried some more. But we did laugh and that I know is what Fred wanted us to do. He loved family get-togethers.
Round the table.. Micah, Marc, Eva, Kaylee, Sarah, Brynn, Shenyle, and Gavin.
On the left is Judy, Teresa, Eva, and Craig.
Uncle Bob and I, keeping the kids occupied.
Papa Bud with Micah and Gavin(our handsome youngest grandsons).
Judy, Fred's wife, looking at the memories of their life together, 41-years! Best Friends for longer than that!
Scott, Fred's son, in quiet thoughtfulness. A moment of contemplation.
Fred's military (Navy) medals and a signed photo with President Reagan.
21 Gun Salute.
Taps... such a solemn, sad sound.
Fred's HAT...
Judy and me. Judy is stronger than she realizes and while I know there will be "bad" days and moments of grief and sadness, the memories of a loving husband and father will carry her through. She has family that loves her very much and will keep her daily in their prayers.
Maggie will miss him too
!
The end of one day in our lives and one life, 
but never will Fred be forgotten.
If Fred were watching us today, he would have been pleased. He would have laughed with us and cried with us and enjoyed the grandchildren at play. He would have added his own special memories of times past. His spirit was there with us! He left us with a "smile" on his face. We can only give him a "smile" in return.
